Don’t Let Fear Take the Wheel And Steer

Naheed — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 17:24:23 +0000

The last few months I’ve been speaking to many people about their goals and dreams for the New Year and beyond.

Unsurprisingly, many of the goals are related to their professions – pass industry specific tests, get hired for that reach position, or attract more clients. The common theme for all of them, however, is to feel confident and truly recognize their own value and worth. After all, how much money are you leaving on the table because you lack the confidence to raise your prices or ask for a raise or promotion?

In my talks I’ve discovered an interesting dichotomy. Every single person has experienced a certain level of success. Then something either derailed them or they hit an invisible upper ceiling which they don’t know how to break through.

Many shared stories of struggle and heart-break – some they’ve overcome and others they are still dealing with.

And then we reach the crucial point in my conversation with them.

I ask, are you ready to move forward and shed those old limitations? Initially the answer is always an enthusiastic YES. But as the conversation progresses and they realize they have to commit, be it time, money, and energy, a strong yes turns into a weak no.

The reasons provided are varied…

Not enough money – this is especially heart-breaking because nothing changes until they commit to releasing their limiting beliefs. (My program has helped clients go from contracts averaging $15,000 to $140,000!)

Not enough time – this generally indicates that you’re spending your energy in areas that do not support you. Are you taking on responsibility for EVERYONE else? The sad truth is you will eventually feel it physically.

Uncomfortable emotions – so many of us avoid feelings that are difficult. It sucked feeling them the first time, so why would you want to feel them again? Because the ONLY way to truly be free of them is to stop suppressing them. Otherwise their ugly heads will constantly pop up at the most inconvenient times.

but in truth this is only one culprit…

FEAR

Change impacts the core of our self-identity. And when that is threatened, it will throw up every obstacle to keep you in the status quo.

What are you holding onto that’s keeping you from your best life? My mentor, Theo, says if not now, when? If not you then who?

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My Best & Worst Client…

Naheed — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 20:14:33 +0000

…is ME!

It’s no surprise that as coaches we first have to learn the lessons that we teach our clients. And some lessons take an awfully long time for us to learn.

I talk a lot about being in “vibrational alignment” with what we want. In simple terms it means, is there a part of us resisting what we want to create? It’s usually a small piece that’s digging his or her heels in and refusing to budge because that part feels safer in the status quo, even if we really want to move forward.

Case in point: a few months back my husband and I upsized from a condo to a house. We planned and talked about a house for years. This year we finally took the plunge. Our new house even had a (seasonal) lake view, something high on my priority list and no easy feat in my landlocked county.

And the strangest thing happened. Instead of jumping up and down for joy I felt…anxious? Apprehensive? Maybe even dread! My friends and family couldn’t understand why I wasn’t more excited, and I couldn’t explain why I felt this way.

After a couple of months I decided it was time to turn my frown upside down. I turned to my trusty EFT/tapping to uncover what was really going on. I quickly realized that I was following the classic trap that Abraham Hicks talks about…

I had not completely stepped into the bigger, more expanded version of what I had become. In other words, my dream felt too big, which translated in me feeling the house was too big, too extravagant.

I was somehow not worthy of it and I felt more embarrassed by the grandness of it then ecstatic that we got what we wanted.

Guess what? That happens. We are human and sometimes we manifest something that feels even bigger than our original desires, which means we energetically (emotionally) withdraw. My message for you today is that it isn’t “bad” to withdraw, but it does not serve you to stay stuck in that place of withdrawal.

What area in your life do you feel you have withdrawn from your creations because it doesn’t feel comfortable?

How much is it impacting you? My guess is it’s more than you think. It certainly was for me.

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Don’t Let Fear Take the Wheel And Steer

My Best & Worst Client…